I can understand why you feel abandoned. 🙁 It sounds like your boyfriend had decided to move out and get an apartment with his friend (I assume this is another guy), [i]before[/i] he discussed the situation with you. It would have made you feel a lot better about things if he’d told you before he did it. That he cut you out of his decision making process [b]an[/b]d didn’t tell you about it until after the plan was settled, is a step away from intimacy and trust in the relationship. 🙁 I don’t think you’re overreacting. That said, being angry isn’t as productive as figuring out where you missed the cues that he was not as interested as you thought he was. Are there other places in the relationship where he seems to be pulling away? Since this is not normal behavior for him, something’s changed. 😕
This move has put you on notice that he’s not as invested in living with you as you previously thought. That’s the most important thing to take away from this whole event. So, find a new place to live — you have time. And decide how you want to proceed in terms of the relationship, itself. It sounds like you’re invested, and so the best thing is to hang aback and see if there are more surprises coming down the pike. But because of the way he handled this what he’s telling you with his actions, if not his words, it really sounds like the relationship isn’t as important to him, as it used to be.
I can understand how that is disappointing. Use this wake up call to take a closer look at things, so you can figure out if this move away from you is the trend of things to come, or a blip on the radar screen.
Let me know how things go, and ask me any further questions you might have.
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