Got it. Thanks for filling me in. It sounds like her cold demeanor is a reaction to two divorces and the struggles that went with the failed marriages. People react different ways to relationships and their failures so what you’re seeing is in fact partly her reaction to the divorces, but it’s also all about HER reactions to the two divorces. Some people can go through four divorces and be cheerful and see the glass as half full. Some go through one divorce and feel scarred for life. So I’m not sure it’s entirely fair to blame the chill on the divorces. This may just be who she is.
The fact that you’re at the six month mark of the relationship, and struggling with this issue, makes a lot of sense. This six month mark is usually the time when people decide whether or not they want to be serious in their relationship or not. Whether you stay with her or not is going to depend on what it is you’re looking for in a relationship and how serious you are about finding it. She’s probably not going to change — and if you haven’t gone through any tough times together, yet, you have to try and figure out what that will be like. Every couple goes through them — whether it’s a job loss, an accident, an illness, death of a loved one, etc. And you want to try to find someone who will be strong for and with you during those times. The fact that she’s got a 12 year old who’s got several teenage years of mandatory toughness in front of her, may hasten those tough times! 😉
I know I didn’t answer the question of whether or not you should stay with her, for you — but I hope I’ve given you some guidance so you can better answer that question for yourself. Let me know if you have any follow up questions.
