[thepaint]

There is this guy who lives on the same floor as me in my apartment this a couple nights ago we had sex (Which was amazing) then 2 days later I saw him (I asked to borrow something) he said sure then he invited himself over for lunch which of course I didn’t mind but then he never showed, I haven’t seen him since. Should I assume he doesn’t want to see me?

[freckles]

How did you get around to having sex? Did you have a date at least? Or did you just get right into it?

I hate to say it, but I think he maybe was just being polite about the lunch. I’d just continue to be cool/playful/flirty with him, but don’t ask him about lunch and don’t ask to see him again. If he’s interested, he would’ve shown up or at least let you know out of respect that he wasn’t going to be able to make it. Something *could* have happened that prevented him from being there, but otherwise, assume he’s not interested. If he is, he’ll come to your apartment asking for something when he’s ready. In the meantime, move on. 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Let me know how things are going for you? 😉

[Sally]

That kind of switch can mess with your head, especially when the connection felt good. When sex is great, it’s normal to assume there’s at least some interest after.
The tough part is that sex doesn’t always mean the same thing to both people. Him inviting himself over and then not showing up without explaining is still information, even if it’s quiet and frustrating information.

It doesn’t automatically mean he never wants to see you again. But it does show he’s not being very clear or thoughtful right now.
I wouldn’t assume anything negative about you or the night you shared. If you want, you can send one simple message and see how he responds. Something light. No pressure.
If you don’t hear back, that’s your answer. Not a fun one, but an honest one.

[Member]

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