[Anonymous]

Happy New Year!

April, I have written to you previously.. I am a 26-old girl.. Well, my story goes on like this.. I had a relationship with a guy for 1 year but we broke up because we were fighting a lot because of jealousy most of the times. He was madly in love with me and I was madly in love with him as well, but I quess it was more physical because we both had issues with trust. Although he was in 7th heaven with me, he liked to flert at times especially when we did not get along but he did that out of insecurity and because he wanted to boost his self esteem. Anyway, it was all about words and nothing more.. The thing is, that at first I lost my trust and then my respect in him, because even if he just shared some compliments, going out for a coffee with his ex was not ok with me at all. Or adding female friends in facebook from parties we went together was not ok either. The wierd thing is that he is immature and stupid, because he was really in love with me. I mean, you know, he wanted to see me daily, he didn’t have the need so much to see his friends and it was obvious from the way he was looking at me and touching me, inviting me in family dinners etc. We had amazing moments together that I will never forget and I remember telling you that I thought he was the man of my dreams! And you replied that I shouldn’t say so because I may have other soulmates as well, like friends. We are both from Greece. In September I moved to the UK to do my Master. We were breaking up and getting back together for a couple of times in August but we decided to break up for good in September little before I moved here. So, in August when we had this crisis I went out with another man that I liked and I was very confident at that time! My ex boyfriend was in depression and madly wanted me back! I loved him and always will, but since I couldn’t trust him I didn’t want to be with him. So, I met this new guy and we are still talking but then I had to leave for the UK, so it was over.

After settling down here, my ex-boyfriend started communicating with me through skype and facebook and told me that he wanted to move to the UK to find a good job because Greece’s economy sucks at the moment. He also told me that I am the woman of his dreams although we argue a lot and when I said to him to come here to search for a job he told me that his family has severe economic issues (has to pay the loan’s installments for the big mansion they possess without really possessing the money to afford it) and that he cannot afford an airplane ticket either! But he keeps looking at it and it will happen in the future (he has studied in the UK for 5 years).

I don’t know what is true and what is just words. When I got back to Greece for Christmas holidays I saw him and he was crying but we were arguing as well. I saw him twice. On the first day and on the last I was there. (I stayed for 10 days) He suggested that I move to his house for a couple of days but I said no because he lives with his parents and of course we are not together. I miss him very much, I don’t know what to do! I know he loves me but I am not so sure if he has changed in some things like those that annoy me.. Here, in the U.K I have a good time but I haven’t met anybody like him so far.. Or anybody that I find interesting enough to date.. I really need your experience April, because I want to find my piece of mind again! I mean, I went to Greece and I got really sad with some things.. I am sitting exams this month, I need to be calm and do well. I spent New Year’s Eve in London but I was still thinking of him:(

Love,
Andrianna

[Ask April Masini]

You may like someone — you may even love someone — but it doesn’t mean you’re compatible and that you should pursue a relationship. You’ve written that this guy is “stupid and immature” and that he has financial problems he’s inherited from his family and he lives with his parents and that you fight a lot. 😳 This is not Mr. RIght. 🙁

I think you miss him because you’re now single and you miss being in a relationship with someone — but not necessarily him. He’s just the last guy or the only guy you’ve ever been with. It’s time to move on.

Read Think & Date Like A Man, [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], and follow all the tips and advice in there for dating smart. If you do, you’ll find yourself back in the dating game — with the man of your dreams.

I hope that helps and that you’ll follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[Anonymous]

Yesterday he told me that he received a scholarship for a phd and he is moving to the U.K in October so we can try. Do you think I shouldn’t? We also talk almost daily via skype and facebook. (We are not together though officially now because I am jealous of him and he is jealous of me). Do you think talking to him is a bad idea because my mind keeps stuck on him?

I ordered the book, it seems fun 🙂 Thank you.

[Ask April Masini]

Re-read the advice I posted to you yesterday. 😉

[Anonymous]

Alright, then! I added you in Facebook 🙂 Have a nice day 😀

[Ask April Masini]

Thank you!! 😀

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