[Eric1099]

I’m a 33 year old man who was diagnosed with schizophrenia. I have a part time job and my own apartment. My income is supplemented by a disability check. I take antipsychotic medication. How do I tell women that I have schizophrenia? When do I tell women that I have schizophrenia?

[Deeteejersey]

You should state it in the very first conversation
Honesty is best from day 0
It’s harder to then explain two months down the line and by then If she’s a clever
Woman she’d have picked it up and this leaves her wondering whatelse you are hiding
And it’s not good
Be honest and say it if she’s likes u she’ll stick around IFNOT she won’t but
U have a moral obligation to be honest

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It’s great that you’re so self-knowledgeable and honest. 🙂 These are aspects of your personality that will make you successful in a good relationship. 😉 So, now, put yourself in a woman’s shoes…. and imagine her reaction to learning these things about you after a first date, a second date, a third date, etc. Some women will consider several of these things about yourself, deal breakers. Others won’t. The idea of disclosing is to weed out those who aren’t interested, so you can date those who are.

If you want to take first and second date to see if you’re interested in someone before getting more involved with them, and disclosing at that point, that’s understandable. But… if you don’t want to invest the time and money in first and second dates with women who may not want a third date because of the new information, then consider telling them up front.

I hope that helps! Let me know if you have any other questions.

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[Eric1099]

[quote=”Deeteejersey”]U have a moral obligation to be honest[/quote]
and they have a moral obligation to not discriminate against me for something I cannot change

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think you may be getting confused when you talk about “discrimination”. There are certain laws that protect minority groups in housing or the job market. You can’t discriminate when selling homes or renting apartments or hiring and firing. But that’s different than dating. 😉

When you’re dating, compatibility is very important. It’s not the same kind of “discrimination” to decide you don’t want to date someone who’s a schizophrenic or a blue collar worker or a single parent, or a short person — those are all personal choices. Just like it’s okay to discriminate when ordering wine. If you like only certain types of beverages, you can be described as someone with a discriminating palate — and that’s not a bad thing. So, when it comes to dating, in fact, if you know that you want to date a woman who makes a certain amount of money, or doesn’t have or want children, it’s not discrimination in the legal sense of the term, to choose to only date women in certain income brackets or women who aren’t single mothers. And if people don’t want to date a schizophrenic — it’s to your advantage to know that up front so you don’t waste your time in a relationship that isn’t going to last because of this incompatibility.

Instead of taking a morality stance, it’s probably a time saver to take a practical one. 😉

Let me know how things go by checking in with me after you start dating!

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