You’ve got more of a shot than you think. You’re already connected, you’ve built comfort, and that’s half the battle. Just because she isn’t giving obvious flirt signals doesn’t mean she’s not interested some people are just subtle or guarded, especially if they’re used to being underestimated or overlooked.
Here’s the thing, man attraction isn’t just about looks or social scorecards. It’s about how someone feels around you. If she laughs with you, trusts you enough to talk about her life, and feels comfortable in your presence, that’s chemistry quiet chemistry, but it’s real.
Don’t overthink the “league” thing. It’s a mental trap. People remember how you make them feel, not how symmetrical your jawline is. If you ask her out with a relaxed, confident tone like,
“Hey, I’ve really enjoyed hanging out with you. Want to grab a coffee or see that new movie this weekend?” it’ll land naturally.
Keep it simple. Don’t sell it too hard, don’t self-deprecate. Just ask like you’d ask a friend you enjoy spending time with because that’s what she is right now, and that’s where most good things start.
If she says yes, great. If not, you walk away with confidence because you had the guts to try and that’s something most people never do.
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