[browneyedgirly]

I feel like my boyfriend of 5 months doesn’t want me anymore. Everything lately has felt hot and cold. It hasn’t always been this way. He has been working hard on a foreclosed house that he will soon live in and I know he stresses about it. School just started this week too for both of us. He will take off a day to spend with his buddies but not take off time to do something I want to do. In fact he has never really hung out with my friends. The past 2 weeks he has seemed distant and unhappy. He doesn’t include me in things he used to. We still have lots of sex and fun when we are around each other for the most part but I feel like he is backing off. I don’t know how to get more affection from him like I used to or to ask him whats wrong. I’m afraid to hear the answer.

[Ask April Masini]

Fear is not your friend. 🙁 If you’re afraid to hear an answer to the question you’re holding, face the music and learn what is really going on. It sounds like your boyfriend has a lot of stress, but that may or may not be the reason he is behaving standoffishly towards you. You need to ask him if he’s changed his feelings about the relationship and that’s why you’re seeing a change in behavior. If you don’t, you’re going to start acting fearful, which isn’t sexy in the least! 😕

If this is a bump in the road and you can ride it with him, then you’ll learn something about how he handles stress and behaves in the face of it. If this isn’t just a bump in the road and is the beginning of his moving on without you, you’d be best off learning this up front so you don’t waste another month or two or three with Mr. Wrong.

Ask him. Pay attention to his behavior. Decide what is going on from a place of being direct with your words and keeping your eyes wide open and your brain clear.

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