[LilithNazare]

Well, i’m 18 years old and a few months back, i started to have a friends with benefits situation with a collegue of mine. I’ve liked him but was totally fine with what we had and he knew it. When we started this, he didnt want a relationship. However, i started to notice he was getting different with me, developing feelings (as was i) and a few days ago he got serious and said he wanted me to be his girlfriend, to wich i agreed.
The problem is, i’ve always gave the idea that i didnt mind seeing him just for sex, but i dont want to give that idea. I like hanging out with him and especially now that we are apparently dating, i wouldnt like for him to have the idea that he can only call me up when he’s ready for a bootycall.
We’ve hung out a few times before, and already when we were fwb he slept once at my house when i had my period, so nothing happened, he just wanted to hang out.
But this next weekend we had planned me going to spend 2 days at his house, and my period came so i said something like “forget the weekend because im on my period”, he got upset but he didnt show any will to still invite me over, however, i didnt show it either because i didnt want to seem like a nag.
So, i feel like me being a little proud is hurting me because i could just communicate and resolve the situation, but for some reason i always chicken out with him because i dont wanna show how much i actually care.
I know he does like me, not exclusivly for sex because we talk literally everyday, all the time and its almost always him innitiating the conversations.
So, should i say something to him? Maybe ask if he doesnt feel like its worth hanging out with me if the goal is not sex? Or if he doesnt say anything because i dont say it either? (he’s more proud than me)
What do you think of this whole situation?
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And by the way, we started as good friends before we jumped to sex. So we do have a lot of fun when we hang out, and we have basically everything in common with eachother, so i think him being bored with my presence could not really be the situation here.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I do not think you should say anything, but I do think you need to change your behavior. If you want to be treated like a girlfriend, then you have to act like a girlfriend. 😉 You’re looking to [i]him[/i] to make changes in the relationship without shouldering any of the responsibility, [i]yourself[/i]. Time for you to make some changes in your own life. Start saying no to booty calls, and yes, if he invites you out on a real date. Say no to “hanging out” and yes, to dates. That’s the way you can try to transition from a FWB to a girlfriend.

Hope that helps! 🙂

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