Greetings. My fiance has a high degree of integrity and I have no concern about her being unfaithful. She was in a relationship with an older gentleman for two years before meeting me. For reasons related to his health the relationship remained “platonic.” At some point they started dating other people. When she and I became serious, she told me that she would like to remain friends, talk by phone, and would extend an invitation for him to join us for dinner. He did not feel comfortable with the latter. Subsequently, I received news that I would be moving to another state and that we would be separated for about a year. At the time of my relocation, she decided that it was okay to start having him come by her house for drinks (with her family present) or meet with him occasionally. Am I being unreasonable in wanting to meet the guy in person first before “buying-in” to the two of them spending time together? -Tom
