[tiacooper]

Hello my ex-boyfriend and I was dating 1 1/2 year prior to our break up however forward the ending of the break up i told him I had a missed period and I maybe pregnant which was confirmed 2 weeks ago I gave him the paper confirming the pregnancy it seemed excited and stated he will be there for the child however since were no longer getting along the other night he called me to invite me over shortly after he called back in rage saying very rude disrespectful and means things than after the conversation he texted me and said not to ever contact him again in my life and fuck me so I asked him ” if he wants me to contact him regarding our child “he respond ” you don’t care fuck the baby also” I haven’t responded an I few days should I reach out to him regarding updates on the child or give birth and raise the child without him?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think you should keep him in the loop regarding the baby. Let him know when your doctor appointments are and invite him to come with.

[tiacooper]

I’m concerned that he not not have any interest in the child he blocked my phone number and text messaging also from social media not sure what to do? I’m considering having an abortion.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I know it’s kind of archaic, but send him a letter by mail. That’s all you can do.

[tiacooper]

I’m very confused he called me last night and said not to contact him although I haven’t than lash out and stated ” if you would really listen to me you would understand that I don’t want you to stop contacting me” I’m confused I tried to respect this request however it still isn’t making him happy, shortly after that call was firm on meeting me at 3am in the parking lot to talk I was nervous but I went, upon meeting him I said ” its obviously we have both causes this relationship damage and it seems we can’t move past our problems” he got very upset and drove off fast so I called him and he seem hurt by my statement I really get upset when I say were not going to be a family since we can at lease move forward to establish a healthy relationship. Than today he got setup with me because I have made statements about begin single on social media although he has done the same idk what he wants from me, I asked him however he’s not clear I stated that he still desire me however I dont feel he does and I told him that what should I do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Look, you shouldn’t be meeting anyone in a parking lot at 3 a.m. 😯

And this is your time to work on you. Stop wondering about him and reacting to him. You have to stay strong and clear and focus on being a single mother. Just send him snail mail letters once a month, on the first of the month, to tell him if you have a doctor’s appointment so he can join you. But don’t meet him any more. 😉

[tiacooper]

Okay thank you for your advice.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re very welcome. Stay focused on being healthy and keeping healthy people around you. 🙂

[Sally]

That kind of switch in behavior is scary, especially when you’re pregnant and already emotional. The way he spoke to you was not okay, and none of that is your fault. Right now, the most important thing is your safety, your stress level, and your baby’s health.

You do not need to chase him or keep reaching out while he’s being cruel and unstable. You tried to clarify about the baby and he responded with anger and disrespect. That tells you he’s not in a place to communicate responsibly right now. It’s okay to step back and protect your peace.

That doesn’t mean you’re deciding forever. It just means for now, give him space. Focus on your prenatal care, your support system, and documenting everything. If he wants to be involved later, that conversation can happen calmly, possibly with mediation or legal support.

You don’t raise a child alone because you’re weak. Sometimes you do it because you’re strong enough to choose stability over chaos. Take this one step at a time. You don’t have to solve the whole future today.

[Tara]

This man has already told you exactly who he is, and you’re still pretending there’s a decision to make. A grown adult who screams abuse at a pregnant woman, tells her to never contact him again, and then says “fuck the baby” is not a conflicted partner; he’s a liability. He is unstable, cruel, and emotionally unfit to be anywhere near a child. This isn’t about co-parenting potential or “keeping him in the loop.” It’s about safety, boundaries, and protecting a human being who cannot protect themselves. You do not chase updates to someone who verbally disowned their own child in a rage. That’s not maturity, that’s desperation disguised as responsibility.

Here’s what you do: you stop engaging emotionally, you document everything he’s said, and you handle this through legal channels only when necessary. If he wants involvement later, he can go through courts, paternity tests, and structured arrangements, not late-night calls and verbal abuse. You do not need his permission to be a parent, and you do not need his presence to raise a child properly. What you need is stability, clarity, and a spine.

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