My boyfriend and I had been dating for 5 months, exclusively. I got pregnant within the last few weeks, had a miscarriage. He already has 2 girls from his previous marriage. I was pretty sure though the time wasn’t right and was probably going to have an abortion (please no comments about pro-life). Anyway, things had been great. He had recently told me how he never expected on meeting someone like me, how I was everything he looked for in a partner, how well we got along, had so much fun together. It was the happiest and healthiest relationship we both had ever had. He was so affectionate with me all the time…the sex was great. He would hug me, curl up with me in bed. Just the other day he grabbed me and said how much he just liked being with me. Then…all of a sudden he tells me he’s confused…he doesn’t know what he wants…he’s not sure if he sees a future and he doesn’t have “those” feelings for me. What?? I’ve never pressured him on anything. We’ve both been really hurt by our last partners and both were very nervous about being hurt again. I know I held back, I didn’t want to show him how vulnerable I was. I think he was doing the same. I’m the only real relationship he’s had other than his ex wife…so he hasn’t really had any experience with actually dating.
He has a form of mild bipolar disorder and I’m not sure if this affected his decision. I think we were both so afraid of being hurt we never gave the relationship a chance. And unfortunately, I’ve never been so happy with someone. And I know he feels he same. We were both honestly so happy with each other. I want him back. I know to give him space and time. Am I crazy to think we have a chance? To think that he could change his mind? We haven’t had any contact since the break up almost a week ago. I haven’t done anything crazy, no texting or calling or stalking. I want us to have some space. I just want to see if it’s possible to create something again in the future? If we both put our defenses down and actually try.
