[ryan]

hi im a 30 year old man. ive been a friend with benefits with a 25 yr old for 10 months now. when we first met she was married but seperated, and now she is divorced. i am a nice guy, not bad looking with confidence and a great sense of humor. recently ive started getting feelings for my friend. when i told her, she said she wasnt ready for a relationship (understandable). and shes not sure if it would work out. when we are together, (usually a week at a time. we live 4 hours apart). its like we are dating. if its going out or just staying in and cuddling, we are like a couple for a week at a time. she has another “friend”. they just meet up for sex when im not around, no nights out or staying the night with each other. which i was fine with for awhile. and i also have had other friends in the past. since my feelings sprouted up ive quit talking to other women and even turned down a few. we text like mad everyday and she says she misses me sometimes. my question is if i should keep trying because i think we could have something special (when/if shes ever ready for a relationship). or if i should quit torturing myself and break it off. i understand her position of wanting to be single for a while. but its just killing me inside. thanks for any advice even if its brutal lol

[April Masini, your AskApril]

She’s made it clear that she’s not interested in a monogamous relationship with you, and since she’s newly divorced, her decision makes a lot of sense. So, if you want a monogamous relationship, and you can’t have one with her, the logical thing to do would be to move on. 😉

If you stay in the situation you’re in, you’re going to be miserable. You already know all this — I can tell. You just want me to tell you. 😉

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