[JB88]

So I guess I’m in a friends with benefits situation? Or what ever it is that you want to call it (we’ve only slept together one time). We haven’t established if this a friends with benefits or not, which is fine because I don’t want a relationship. I’m just confused because I feel like I’m being rude here. He set up a nice date, kissed my forehead after, cuddled, and kissed after the first time we had slept together.

He drove me home and we pecked as I got out of the car- just a gentleman about things.I never reach out to him (don’t want to blur any lines). He took a week to say something to me, but I did not respond to his message. He sent me another text a week after ( he sent me kissy faces) and I’m contemplating on if I should respond back or not. Since this is my first friends with benefits, how should communication go? I feel bad about ignoring his texts but I just want to make sure no lines are blurred. When I’m ready to do the do I’ll say something other than that I just don’t see the point in talking I guess. My girlfriends said to keep contact extremely limited as to not come off interested, but doing this just also seems rude.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

When one person wants a committed relationship and the other one wants a friends with benefits relationship, one person is going to be disappointed. In this case, it sounds like it’s him. There’s no way around this when you have two different people with two different goals. You’re not being rude — you’re just shooting for a different goal than he is. If you stay clear, it’s his choice whether or not to continue. 😉

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