[MrStephen]

this is kind of a long story so i will try to condense it, also i apologize for any grammatical errors as I am not and english major.

So i met this girl about a year ago at work, we started to get to know each other and eventually started dating. About 4 months into the relationship she get pregnant, we decided not to keep it due to the fact that neither of us were ready. Relationship continues and i eventually break up with her because she stayed over at her ex boyfriends house and the only reason i found out was because i called her phone and he picked up. This was the second time she did not tell me she was hanging out with him let alone staying overnight at his place. She swears up and down that nothing happened, but that neither here nor there.

Subsequently she up and decides that she is now moving to idaho to live with her friend who has been living there for the last year, she states that she’s done with living in iowa and she needs a change. So she puts in her notice to work saying her last day will be dec 10th. Keep in mind she is leaving a good paying job in a crappy economy to move out west with no money and no plans what so ever.

Keep in mind i worked right next to this girl 40hrs a week and lived with her while all this is going on. So even though we were broken up we would still sleep with each other on a pretty consistent basis. Anyways, halloween night we did not hang out but since i was still living with her i was at home when she got there. Being the curious guy that i am i snuck a peek at her text messages and she had recently sent a message to two of her friends exclaiming that she has just had sex with a black guy! apparently a life long dream of hers. I then confront her on this more or less because we had only been “broken up” for about a week and i was shocked that she was moving on so quickly. She then tells me that they really did not have sex they was some oral play involved but it did not go past that since someone walked in on them, either way it was all the same to me.

I then decide to move out, we still saw each other on a pretty regular basis and were still sleeping with each other, she was still saying that she loved me and how much she was going to miss me and would occasionally try to convince me to move there with her.

As of dec 14th she has been in idaho, and last week she told me she is pregnant…again. And is having a tough time deciding what to do and also tells me not to tell anyone about it. I go out and have some drinks with some friends and i ended up telling them whats going on. One of my friends then comes forward and tells me that he knows of at least one other guy that she had slept with before she left.

so this was the condensed version of whats been happening.

I am really confused, I told her after she told me she was pregnant that i would do whatever it takes to make it work and i would support her as best as i could and possibly move out there to do so (which everyone i know says is a terrible idea). But with all this new information coming to light with her sleeping around before she left i dont know if the kid is even mine. And prior to all this she said she was leaning towards getting it taken care of again and me being the supportive person i am volunteered to pay half of the cost as i know she has 0 money and no job. I’m thinking there’s a distinct possibility that she might not even be pregnant and is taking me for the proverbial “ride” because she’s hard up for cash.

I did indeed love this girl and perhaps that was my greatest fault i still have strong feelings for her and i feel like she is using that to her advantage but i’d still like not to believe so.

sorry this is so long and i appreciate all the feedback i can get

-Stephen

[kai]

Hi, like i mentioned to several other posters — April has told everyone that [i]the welcome area is not to be used as the Q & A advice forum[/i]. [u]it even says “DO NOT post your questions” here[/u], when you go to sign up.

i suggest you delete the questions you posted in the welcome forum and repost them in the Q & A Relationship Advice Forum instead. [b]i doubt you’ll get a response to your question, from April. in the welcome area.[/b]

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