[xmeggieboox2]

I’m only 16 and I’ve been having alot of trouble with relationships, they just seem pointless and short and I feel like I’m setting myself up to get hurt. Seeing as I’m so young, I’ve realized that I have so much time to find the right guy for me and I don’t really worry about it now. I’m taking a break from relationships for a while because I’m tired of being hurt and I always tell myself not to worry because one day I will find a guy that’s worth all the pain it takes to get to him. Lately, though, I’ve been starting to think that there isn’t a guy out there and that all guys are the same and that I won’t find one who’s going to treat me right or love me. How do i get my confidence back?

[Anonymous]

Follow your own advice.. You ARE only 16… be 16.. and stop worrying about relationships right now.. Enjoy your life because you can’t ever go back to this point… Enjoy the freedom while you can because it doesn’t last long. Hang out with friends, go to the mall (or whatever kids do these days?) Just be yourself and everything else will come… Meet new people.. Just enjoy this moment in your life..

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I like Prey4tomorrow’s advice. Since you are 16, and your hormones are coursing through your body helping you to grow, but causing extra vivid emotions as a side effect, take a break from dating. Hang out with your friends in groups, and allow yourself to have your emotions, but try and remind yourself (I know this his hard to do!) that you’re going to have at least 10 and possibly 20 years to date before you decide to marry — if you do. You have lots of time to find out about yourself, young men, friends and what you want in life.

Hearts get broken and feelings get elated and dashed normally in a relationship, and surviving the ups and downs — and eventually learning to appreciate them and even find the poetry in them — is what makes you have character and maturity. Hurt is part of life. And so is love. You’ll have PLENTY of both in time.

All men are not alike, although like women and all humans, men, too all share some of the same characteristics — so rather than get bitter and think they’re all awful, or act naive and think all men are terrific — try and gain a little distance and see if you can’t balance enjoying, and studying people and their behaviors so you don’t feel like such a victim of your emotions — and theirs.

I hope that helps. 🙂

[Althea Mae]

At 16, just focus on yourself and your goals are the best choice. one or two bad experience don’t define all relationship and there are certain people who will treat you with kindness. just give yourself time to heal and be patient to wait for the right person

[Member]

Posts