Hi April,
I’m in a bit of a crisis. Recently, I’ve felt the spark and the flame of our relationship simply fade away. She’s been nothing but good to me over the years, yet, I just don’t feel the same connection–the same excitement (however, I have felt excitement when I pick her up from the train station, for instance). I feel horrible/confused because of how I’m feeling. To add extra info to the scenario, I currently suffer from ADHD and Clinical Depression. I also work midnight shifts. We live a few states apart, but we keep in communication on Skype and the phone and such. I have recently found myself poking around dating sites, but I’ve never followed through with anything (nor have I told her this, as I feel like it’s going to hurt our relationship, and I don’t want to jump the gun, as it were). I don’t want to make a move I’m going to regret, because I have loved her greatly over the past few years, but, I need to know the truth of things and the action I should take. I’ve communicated most of my concerns to my girlfriend, and she’s been supportive of me. She thinks the depression is affecting how I’m feeling as it relates to our relationship, among other things such as my living conditions, working hours, etc.
On to the questions: How will I know IF and WHEN there’s a time to cut it off? Is what I’m experiencing normal, like a lull, or is it something that’s indicative of something else, like a need to break-up, or even some other issues I need to fix? I want to know if there’s anything I can do, and finally, what you would advise me to do. Thank you :)!
