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My guy was 9 years older than me but he acts like young child. What can I do to stop him from acting in that way? If I will talk to him what are the possible words I can use so I cannot hurt his feelings?

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I see a lot of people have read your message but none have responded.

My advice: He is older than you. Its a good possibility that he is stuck in his ways and isnt going to change. You are either going to have to accept him for who he is or find someone new. I was married to a man like this. He was almost 7 years older than me but he acted like a child. I thought eventually he would grow up and stop acting like that. Sad to say…he is almost 40 and still acts like he is 12. Our 10 year old son is more mature.

There probably isnt anything you can say or do to change him.

[Ask April Masini]

If you don’t want him to act like a young child, stop treating him like a young child. That’s for starters.

Since you haven’t told me exactly how he’s acting like a young child, I can tell you that if he has a great job, makes sure to take you out and give you attention like a great boyfriend, but wants you to tie his shoelaces, I’d just buy him loafers to replace the tie shoes.

In other words, if most of what he does is very mature and responsible, but he’s eccentric, then you can work with someone like that because on the proverbial score sheet, his good column outweighs his bad column. But if pulls your hair to get your attention, expects you to treat him to dinner, movies and all your date activities, and has a potty mouth, then why date him?? Don’t you want a man — not a child?

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