[leerb3]

ive been with my girl for three years,for 16 to 19. we’ve built so many beautiful memories together, from staying on the phone all night to walking her to swimming practice every day in high school. we’ve become each others obsession and universe. back to the story,about a couple months ago i started to distance myself from her, and told her i needed a break. during that break we still saw each other and acted like we were still dating. also in that time i thought i was “mr cool”, going to parties smoking cigarettes trying to be cool. also in that time i met this girl that i liked and started hanging out with and eventually we slept together. so a week ago someone told her that they saw me hanging out with the girl and she eventually she called the girl and found out everything.its been a week since shes left me and im dying. the thought of another woman gets me naseous, i cant concentrate on anything. she has become my mother father best friend,everything thing. ive heard a lot of guys say they would never do it again but even the thought of doing it again gets me sick, literally. i love her so much and im willing to go to the ends of the universe to get her back and to continue our beautiful journey together as soul mates and lovers and friends. i know i messed up and took a wrong turn somewhere but i am truly regretful, i have never felt this empty so i can imagine her pain, i want nothing more than to hold my angel in my arms right now, if she does give me another chance i know it will take a long time to rebuild but i am willing to do whatever i need to, if any one has any advice please share- thank you

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Boy, oh boy

[tricia]

You have to take the risk of your actions. No matter how sincere you are, the question is,. will she accept your apology. You betrayed her and you seem to trash the three-year relationship the two of you established with that ONE stupid mistake.

Try your best to win her back, exert all the effort. But one thing for sure, you might win her back but the TRUST will never back.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Happy New Year! Please let me know how things are going for you. 😉

[Natalie Noah]

This relationship has been central to your life. your bond with her went far beyond romance to friendship, trust, and shared history. That makes the pain you’re feeling now intensely real. What also stands out is your recognition of your mistakes: you admit that you made a serious choice that broke her trust, and you understand the magnitude of that betrayal. That self-awareness is important because it’s the first step toward taking responsibility and showing genuine remorse.

At the same time, you have to face the reality that rebuilding a relationship after betrayal is not just about expressing regret, it’s about giving her the time, space, and consistent actions that demonstrate trustworthiness. Love alone won’t automatically repair the damage. You can’t rush the process, and she may never fully regain the same level of trust she once had. What you can do is be patient, show respect for her feelings, and let your actions consistent honesty, reliability, and understanding speak louder than words. Whether or not she ultimately forgives you, this period can teach you about accountability, the value of trust, and the depth of your own feelings.

[Frank]

The damage has already been done, you can’t take it back anymore. Everything you did was your choice. If you truly loved this girl, you shouldn’t have done that in the first place.
But I can’t completely blame you either, because it seems like you were in a stage where you wanted to explore other things, and only realized how important she was when she was already gone. Even if you regret it now, you can’t undo what happened.
All you can do now is keep talking to her, try to win her back slowly, and hope that she eventually forgives you, if she even can.
Just treat it as a lesson learned and move forward from it.

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