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I have been seeing my boyfriend for Four months now. Our relationship didn’t exactly start in a dream way, since he was at the time in a relationship with another girl when we met. He has since ended his relationship with her to be with me exclusively. The problem I am having is with this mentioned Ex. He insists that she not know that we are together. I am completely sure he has broken up with her since I was shown the conversation between them when he ended it with her. I do understand that he wanted to save her feelings by not telling her about me when we first got together since it was so soon after they broke up, but now after around two months, I am still his little secret from her and everybody that knows her. This however is not my main concern. She is constantly sending him suggestive messages and asking him for phone sex and cyber sex. He has assured me that he doesn’t give her what she is asking for, but part of me is convinced that he gives her these things when I am not around. Surely if he were not giving her what she wanted or at least encouraging her in some way she would have given up by now? I am hesitant to mention my worries about this to him because I am partly convinced that this is just me being insecure as this is my first real relationship. Should i just ask him to tell her to back off? Should I insist that he tell her I am part of his life now? He’s saving her feelings by keeping me a secret, but also hurting mine by doing so. What should I do?

[Ask April Masini]

I think you should trust your instincts and remember that he cheated on her when he started dating you, so to expect him to suddenly be a different person would be foolish.

I don’t advise that you INSIST he tell her about you or ASK HIM to tell her to back off. What you should do is decide if this is someone you want to continue dating, given that he’s not being honest with his ex-girlfriend, and probably not with you, either. 😳

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go — and follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter, and on Facebook: [url][/url]. 😀

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