[PhoReal]

I have been dating my girlfriend for about two months and I feel the honeymoon phase is already over. The convenience of her living right down the street from me, lead to us seeing each other almost every single day. Our relationship ended up progressing much quicker than any relationship I’ve had in the past. She’s a great woman and she treats me amazingly…HOWEVER… lately we’ve been having disagreements. Typically over her believing I don’t pay attention to the way men interact with me when we go out. She sees it as flirting with me and I don’t always believe men are flirting with me. When a man flirts with me, I act accordingly. If I don’t feel a man is flirting I will have a conversation with him just like anyone else.

If it’s like this now, how will it be in six more months? Relationships come with arguments. I’m well aware of that. I just feel like we should still be in the honeymoon phase. Two months into our relationship, we should not be arguing and having disagreements…im starting to believe this is a red flag…or a sign that this relationship isn’t meant to be. She has become one of my best friends and she’s perfect in many ways. I just want to be able to go a week without arguing. Should we fight for the relationship or should I end it as soon as possible?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Take a broader look at things. The first two months of dating anyone is a time to get to know each other rather than be in a committed relationship. Use the first three months of dating anyone simply to decide get to know them and decide if you want to continue dating them. If you do, use the second three months to decide if you want to be monogamous with them. If you use these guidelines you can relax a little and notice that she’s jealous, rather than freak out about it because you feel you have a commitment already. 😉

I hope that helps.

[PhoReal]

It did help. Thanks!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Awesome! 😀

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