[Andrei]

I’ve liked Clariz for a long time. The first time I saw her at the office, I immediately fell in love with her. I’m shy about making a move on her because I feel like I’m not good enough for her since she’s beautiful and comes from a wealthy family. Almost all of my close friends at the office already know that I like Clariz. They even say that we look good together and that our height difference matches well. She’s a soft girl and very demure, which is why many of our officemates also have a crush on her. One time, I invited her to a coffee shop near the office, and she agreed to come with me. I really want to formally court her, but I still feel very shy. Maybe you can help me and give me some advice.
How do I build confidence when dating a woman I really like?

[Quenie]

First of all, just act normal—what I mean is, be yourself. Second, you need to be confident, even if there’s a possibility of rejection. That’s really part of courting. You have to be able to accept losing too, so you don’t get too emotionally down. That’s really all there is to it.

[Ricky]

Don’t doubt yourself. Nothing will be lost if you try—it’s better than regretting not doing anything at all. Sometimes, girls don’t really look at status or appearance; they focus more on personality. As long as you’re a decent person and your intentions are good, there’s nothing wrong with it, and nothing is impossible. Just try so you’ll know.

[Tyrone]

I don’t think you’re actually that shy since you were able to invite him out for coffee. Maybe you should try doing that again—build more rapport first, and once he feels more comfortable with you, that’s when you can be honest about your true feelings for him. You can also try asking him out on a proper date. If he agrees, that’s great. If not, then respect his decision, even if it hurts. You also need to learn how to accept “loss” so you don’t end up getting too hurt in the end if your “mission” doesn’t work out.

[Mitzh]

The fact that you invited her for coffee and she agreed is already a good opportunity to start showing that you’re interested in her and that you have romantic feelings for her. Just don’t rush things. Trust the process and focus on building a strong foundation between the two of you first. Show her that you’re a good man with genuine intentions. Once you’ve gotten to know each other better and built a connection, that’s the time to ask her out on a proper date.

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