My boyfriend Carl and I have been together for two years. We don’t get to see each other often because his apartment is far from where I live. I’m 21 and he’s 24. Since we rarely see each other, our main source of communication is through text or calls. Sometimes when we’re texting, I don’t like the way his words come across to me. It feels like there’s a tone in his messages that I can’t understand. For example, when I get upset and ask why he hasn’t been texting me because I feel like he no longer has time for me, he replies with things like, “Then just stay upset, you know I’m busy with work.” Sometimes his replies also feel very cold, like when I send a long message and he only replies with “really” or “okay.” Those kinds of replies really annoy me because texting is already our main way of communicating, and then he still responds like that. It makes me feel like he doesn’t care about what I’m feeling. But at the same time, I also want to understand him because I know he’s busy with work and tired when he gets home.
I want to stop myself from getting irritated, and I want to understand him because I don’t want our relationship to be ruined.
How do I stop overthinking his messages and behavior?
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