Usually a guy is ready to find Ms. Right BEFORE he actually meets her. There are certain things in his life that let you know he’s ready to settle down. They have to do with the place he is in his career, his finances, his desire to settle down and stop hanging out with single guys, etc. There was once a Sex and the City Episode on television that described a man who’s ready so well: One of the characters said, a guy who’s ready to get married is like a taxi with the vacancy light on. If you come along at the right time in his life, you’re going to be Ms. Right. If you don’t, it doesn’t matter how well matched you are — he’s just not going to be ready.
It sounds like your guy is just not ready to get married. Tell me how old you both are and where you are in your careers and your lives and I’ll be able to let you know more clearly what I think.
I don’t think that changing your monogamous relationship to an open one where you both date other people is the right answer. A guy is basically ready, or he’s not. Your guy isn’t. Now.
I hope that helps — even though it isn’t what you probably wanted to hear.
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