[Anonymous]

Look, I am always the first to admit that I have a bad temper and flip out at the most trivial of things!!!

I like it in the fact that if anyone was to danger or freaten myself, family an friends etc I honestly feel that I would do anything humanly possible to protect and front plus match any such danger!!!

I honestly like that about me as I feel as a result that I or anyone close to me does not get or become a victim stroke bullied by one of life`s meat head`s…

The problem I have is that I am with a partner who I love to pieces, she is the mother of my child! We teamed together and made my son – Believe me, he is out of this world – Perfect!!!

To cut a long story short…

I admit we probably have different outlooks on life but when we clash it`s absolutely horrible, we say do things that are once calm totally shocking.

It has become less frequent and honestly thought we had turned a corner…

Then, last night BANG out of nowhere world war 3 explodes!!!

Look sorry to share my morbid thoughts but love my partner and absolutely adore my son…

Just hoping that maybe someone could give some sort of constructive advice on how to once and for all finally beat this negative, shameful element of our relationship???

[Ask April Masini]

I think it’s great that you understand and appreciate that you are a [i]passionate[/i] person. But having a temper with no control is not cool. I know you don’t want to hurt anyone, but you put your own feelings ahead of others when you let your passion and your temper overtake a situation, which is what it sounds like is happening. 🙁 It sounds like you are letting your temper take over and you lose perspective on a situation.

Next time you feel that temper flaring, take yourself OUT of the room. Drive away. Walk around the block. That keeps you and everyone you love SAFE. Next exert some energy. Go for a run. Work out at the gym. Swim at the YMCA. Exert the energy that your adrenalin rush has given you — in a safe way.

When you calm down, go back to your partner and try to work out the problem that was the catalyst for your flare up.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go.

And in the meantime, I’ll see you on Facebook: [url][/url] and you can follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter.

[Author]

Posts