[meowngu]

I met this guy… he thought i was in love with him. Actually it’s me who made him think that way. At first i just wanted to send some romantic messages to a guy. I didn’t think he was that into me.I’m ugly and stupid, always wearing the same jeans and colorful t-shirts with cartoon characters on them. He is ugly too. I have no interest in ugly boys. I guess most of girls are.But i’m sorry being mean. I’m just being honest. Please i need advice. How can i do that without being honest? so forgive me… Anyways, though i tried unfriend him on facebook, he continued to call me on viber. I just want to stop this relationship. But you know those films about a girl who at first had no interest in a guy but then they married? I’m scared this relationship is gonna turn that way. I refer films about ugly ducky girls and handsome boys.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Got it. So, thanks to your pre-posting questionnaire, I can see that you’re both 15 years old, and it sounds like you were looking for attention, so you baited a guy online, in what sounds like an attention seeking experiment — but he’s really into you and doesn’t think you’re ugly or unattractive. He seems to like you, and you didn’t expect that. You can cut him off altogether with a sincere apology and let that be that. If you were older, I’d suggest that you meet him in a coffee shop, in public for safety. But since you’re only 15 years old, I don’t think it’s a great idea to meet a guy in person who you don’t know and only met online. There are so many safety issues that could end this poorly. Just like you were fooling him online, he could be fooling you, too. He could be a 50 year old guy or he could be someone with poor intentions — you just don’t know. The best thing to do is just cut it off and learn your lesson from this one. You misrepresented yourself online, and other people tend to do the same sometimes. Since you’re a young teen, try to meet people in real life to date. It’s safer and you each know a lot more about each other.

I hope that helps!

[Eric Morgan]

You said you were “ugly and stupid,” and the guy was “ugly”. The truth is that you have low self-esteem, which is why you sought validation online. Until you like yourself, you will keep playing “attention games” that will only hurt you later. Be smart, not poor. Listen, a high-value girl never wastes anyone’s time just to satisfy her own ego.
Next time, put your energy into a skill or real-life grooming, instead of sending romantic messages to strangers on the internet.

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