[43counselor]

On April13, 2013 my ex-boyfriend told me to live my life. Then he asked if I could come out of town where we could talk. I dont have a vehicle at this time due to being in a wreck but he has one. In this relationship I have been there for him i have not cheated on him. I told him I am different from every woman that he has been with. I notice that he stopped accepting my phone calls. When he would call we would only talk about 15 minutes and he would tell me that he was just checking on me. He then told me that i keep calling him like i was bothering him I literally begged him not to leave me. He told me that it wouldnt take me long to get over him maybe 2 days. We have been together 14 months. Last weekend I was suppose to go and see him. I changed my mine I didnt go and he has been calling like crazy. There was a time I would call him and he wouldnt answer. Im not answering to let him show how it feels but I am trying to move on I dont want him back just hurt. He texted me and said that he miss me. I didnt response to him. He kept calling I told him I verbally couldnt talk to him just text because it is to painful to talk to him I am tried of being hurt.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

How old are you both?

You said he’s your ex-boyfriend, but when did the two of you break up? Was it on April 13? Or sometime before that?

Fill me in, and I’ll answer your question! 😀

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[43counselor]

Hi April,
We broke up on April 13, 2013.He is 49 I am 43. I have my own home, in the process of getting a car, education. I accepted him for him not for what he didnt or did have. He called today. Im tired of being hurt and I wont answer the phone when he calls. I hope Im doing the right thing. I have to protect my heart. I am to graduate from college on May 18, 2013 with my PHD. I am so hurt I dont care about graduating now. Im going on with my life. I am very vunerable right now I feel that he will take advantage of that I cant answer the phone until I am able to talk to him without sounding weak. Im hurt by the words that he said, he told me to live my life. He told me I will be over him in two days. We were together for 14 months. He havent called me this much in a long time. Last month he would call and talk to me for 15 minutes and then tell me that he will call back and I wouldnt hear from him until the next day or 3 or 4 days later. I stopped calling him. Im tired I have gave up on men.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Got it. I think I understand the situation….. but do you have a question?

[43counselor]

Hi April,
My question is am I doing the right thing to stop answering all his calls. I stopped last Tuesday. I think I am doing the right thing what do you think. I just want to be on the right page. He said he needs closure I dont want to talk. I dont need closure I am giving him what he asked for he ended this relationship.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If he’s broken up with you, and you feel that the relationship is irretrievable, then you’re DEFINITELY doing the right thing. Any further contact is a waste of your time and energy. It sounds like you’re frustrated with the relationship and your boyfriend’s behavior, and it’s really time for you to regroup and decide what it is you want in a relationship, then be smart about going about getting it. 😉 Figure out where you went wrong in choosing this last boyfriend, and what you can do differently next time around to assure success. 😉 You’ll learn a lot reading these forum boards, and if you’re inclined, Think & Date Like A Man, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], a book I wrote for women who want to find, get and keep Mr. Right. There’s a lot of information in there, and you may know some of it, but judging from what you’ve written, I think there are some things you could really stand to learn and/or re-learn and remind yourself of when dating. 😉

I hope this helps.

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