There’s a saying, “You can be right, or you can be happy.” Whether or not you’re right is less important in a relationship than it is at work, in a courtroom, or in a medical scenario. When you’re trying to make a relationship work, it’s more important to find compatibility, and sometimes that means making deals or letting things go, even when you know you’re right, because you want the other person to be happy to be with you. 😉
You’re right — people show their truest, and most unpleasant sides, to those they feel they’re closest to, and to those they feel won’t leave them. That doesn’t mean you should do this because it takes a toll on your wife. And if you can’t help it, then find a way to show your appreciation for her enduring this side of you that isn’t your best side, but it is one of your genuine sides.
In addition, our spouses don’t have to be everything to us. In other words, you don’t have to share everything and every emotion with a spouse. Sometimes a best friend, a physician, a support group — or simply a sweaty racquetball game, are better ways to take out our frustration and anger at the world, or a particular unfair situation. It’s great to have a support system for whatever you need it for — whether it’s PTSD, or other less complicated problems that take a toll on your wife that is straining the marriage.
Hope that helps!
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