[roroanon]

So i’m really into this guys from my work, and no there’s no strict dating policy.
A colleague of mine told me that he is very shy, and having known him since he was 5, hes always been shy.
I have noticed maybe a few signs from him but i’m not sure if hes just completely not interested and trying to stay out of my way or if he is in fact interested in me.
I don’t know if im imagining things because i like him or if he does like me back but just too shy to do anything about it:

1. I sometimes catch him looking at me out of the corner of my eye but then as soon as i move my head in that direction he looks away.

2. At our work Christmas party he was quite drunk, and ignored me for most of the night, but then we had a massive chat for about 45 minutes, where he kept on patting my back and standing kind of close to me but then again he was drunk so yeah i dont know…..

3. At this same christmas party he told me someone had asked the ticket lady to find out if he was going to go, and ‘hit him up for a ticket’. I dont know if he was fishing to try find out if it was me?

4. He literally ignores me at work, except when he says hey like once per shift, or when i talk to him, and the conversation is kind of awkward.

5. When we do talk he always smiles at me, and im kinda shy as well so yeah im awkwardly smiling as well.

6. He gets along well with other people, guys and girls alike

7. i was getting out of the lift, he was getting in, he saw me in the corner and then immediately looked away.

I have been hurt in the past really badly and i’m not willing to make any kind of move if i dont know for certain that he is interested.
So I think there might be more but i dont remember 100% But yeah i really like him but im too scared to make a move on him unless i know for sure! I also think that hes might not be interested?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You definitely shouldn’t make a move. 😯 But you [i]should[/i] flirt with him so that he knows you’re interested. 😉 Give him something to chase after, and be the woman he wants to ask out on a date! 😎

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[roroanon]

But what do you think about the guy? do you reckon i have a chance? or…?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The only way you’ll know is if you flirt with him and he asks you out. Or doesn’t. 😉

Lots of people write to me and want me to tell them if someone likes them or what their chances are — without doing the work required for dating and/or a relationship! 😕 I don’t have a crystal ball, but I do have a lot of experience as a relationship expert, and if you don’t flirt with him, he probably will not ever ask you out. If you do flirt with him and make it clear you’re interested, he may ask you out if he’s interested in you because he’ll think he’s got something to go for — instead of nothing. 😉 It’s really that simple. But you have to decide you want to do the work that’s required in dating — in order to get a date — or just to be in the game! 🙂

You’ve spent a lot of time writing about him — but you’re not focusing on the one thing you have control over: YOUR BEHAVIOR! 😀

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[roroanon]

my behavior, well i have been hurt quite a lot in the past, so when i like a guy i try really really hard not to show it in case i get rejected, which, yes i do know is not going to help anything!

So my behavior, well i have been talking to him a bit, but its hard at work to talk to someone when you dont see them as much as you want to, balanced with the fact im too scared to show him im into him so yeah…….. i guess maybe thats the problem all along?

What do you think?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you can’t face rejection, you’re going to have a hard time dating. 😳 And if you accept that rejection is just a part of all dating, you’ll have a much easier time. 🙂 You’re right — that if you don’t show him you like him, you’ll probably never find out if he likes you.

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