[Anonymous]

Hi.. My Girlfriend of nearly 2 years broke up with me about 6-7 weeks ago.. No one cheated and there was no major incident that caused the breakup.. just “I don’t feel the same way anymore” and “I want some time to myself” ect… Obviously I was and still am devastated…

At first I was a bit needy and clingy but then I although it was very hard I didn’t contact her at all for about 3 weeks.. She started calling and messaging me and we met up for the first time about a week and a half ago.. Since then we have met up and hung out a few times.. I have been trying to act cool and it feels like we have just been hanging out as old friends.. We havn’t talked about the breakup or anything..

She talks about other guys she has met and asks me questions ect.. and I try to act cool as if i don’t care (when I obviously do!) I don’t know if she is telling me to judge my reaction or make me jealous?

Should I continue to listen and act like I don’t care? or should I tell her its still so hard for me to hear and talk about her with other guys with her…

And should I come and tell her I still Love her and want to get back together? or just keep taking it slow? I don’t want to scare her away by seaming needy or too interested? and i also don’t want her to think im not interested anymore and get stuck in the “friend” department..

Thanks

[Ask April Masini]

You’re entering dangerous territory! Since you want to get back together with her, I understand that you don’t want to lose contact with her, but if the terms of being together are her telling you about the other guys she’s dating, you’re putting yourself into doormat position. 😳

I think it’s time to make it clear that you want to date her, and if she’s not ready, then you have to move on. She knows how to contact you, and if she knows you’re serious about her and that’s the only way you’ll see her, then you’ll have to trust that when she’s ready (if she’s ever ready), she’ll do just that.

But for now, you don’t want to turn into one of her “girlfriends” that she chatters about new guys with.

I hope that helps. Let me know how it goes, and I hope you’ll follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter, and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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