First of all, you need to buy and read Date Out of Your League, a book I wrote for men who want to date with more success. It’s going to help you a lot more than I can here. You can purchase the book as a download at this link: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url]. It’s only $8.99, so I hope you’ll buy and read it and we can discuss things in greater depth after that.
But what you need to understand is that if you have a true phobia, you probably need to see a physician. If you have a fear of hurting other people, you need to face facts: relationships don’t come with insurance. People get hurt. It’s the nature of the business. The best you can do is know yourself well, know what you want, and be willing to say no if someone isn’t right for you in order to prevent any unwise investment in a relationship that you already know isn’t going to work out. Just because someone is a good person, doesn’t meant they’re a compatible match for you, and you have to be mature enough to understand that.
But if you decide your fear is more important that risking the possible pain that comes with dating, looking for love and finding the love of your life…. then my heart goes out to you because that, my friend, is a lonely life. My advice is to date smart, and understand that every day when you walk outside you’re taking a risk. I hope you’ll find the possibility of love is worth it.
I hope that helps. Let me know how things go for you, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀
