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February 4, 2011 at 11:56 pm #3962
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InactiveI knew this girl on hi-school, I was new so was she but we weren’t any closer than school mates at the beginning, for the end of the year we were like friends, the next year we became really closer to the point that we didn’t just lunch together, we shared our lunch to each other everyday, we were always together, we told us everything we knew (even the things you never say), and she became something so special to me, she could almost read my mind and so I, I thought that was all she wanted from me and all I wanted from her, the issue started when I began to doubt about it, she started to get jealous when I was interested in another girl to the point that she became all hysteric screaming because of it once, I didn’t get mad, I even felt it was cute (funny huh?), but she never told me she wanted to be more, there were just the signs and I didn’t wanted to risk all when I wasn’t sure, after graduation we go out many times, but she always hide me from her father saying that she was going out with some other friends, not me!, the last time we went out, when I was walking her home she told me that that day she had told her father that she was going out with me, ’cause was hated to hide things, after that day she moved to another house far away from mine, without a car it was no way possible that we would keep a close touch, besides the phone calls and the chats (they were everyday lasting hours), and she got a new job so she wouldn’t have much time neither, I felt like she was fading away so I decide to tell her that I like her because I really began to like her, and thought it was the right thing so I just followed y heart but her reaction was something unexpected, she became all mad about it, she said that I screw everything, that how could I do that to her when she gave me her trust, that was at night, the next day I called her and she said she apologize for all she had said, that she behave wrongly, and that she said things I didn’t deserved to hear, and that besides that she didn’t wanted to know anything about me at that moment, and we needed to give us some time (I notice in her voice that she was broken), we didn’t talk until three months after, I knew that a bike hit her so I had to call her, she talked like if we never fought and we never talked about that again, we started talking by phone and chat everyday again, after six months she got a promotion on her job, so she had less time than before, and every time I tried to talk to her she used that excuse to cut it, and she started to fade slowly from my life, now she doesn’t call me or text me and I not even have her phone number… What the hell happen? I don’t get it, she was ever interested on me? she don’t want to talk to me again? and why? I used to be her everything (her words) and so did she for me, now she is gone…
February 7, 2011 at 12:19 pm #19119
April Masini, your AskAprilKeymasterWhen someone is exhibiting confusing behavior, your best bet is to be perfectly clear about your life and your intentions, and that’s what I recommend you do. Clearly she has some confusing dynamics going on in her life without you and they’re playing out on you! Don’t enable this behavior. Instead, be clear that you like her romantically and you don’t want to lose her, but you need to be honest and hope she’ll appreciate that. Continue to ask her out on dates, and when she is confusing, ask her to explain her behavior to you because you care about her enough to want to understand.
I can’t read her mind any more than you can, so asking her questions is the best place to start, and being crystal clear about yourself is the basis for an honest relationship.
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