[Anonymous]

i have been dating a great guy for a short time about 3 months, but we have known each other all our lives. We immidiatly had an amazing connection. This guy is one in a million, but he is very busy. he is a cop and has two kids part time. like all of us he has other things going on too. our relationship was perfect, and i mean that. our only problem , and it wasnt a problem at all, but he lives about an hour away from me. we still managed to see each other, and always had an amazing time. he always told me ho much he liked me and was so happy and lucky that we had gotten together. we never had a cross word with each other, not once. we talked every day, and he always was telling me how much he enjoyed being with me and how great it was that we had so much in common. and i of coarse shared those same feelings with him. we are a great match, our personalities are the same, our humor, our interests, i seriously mean it was perfect. it had been two weeks sense the last time we had seen each other, and i didnt realize what an aweful week he was having, when he told me he wasnt going to see me this week either i was a little hurt, he said he really wished he had more time to spend ith me, but being a women i had to go and ask him if the reason he wasnt able to see me was because he was busy, or if it was something else. he didnt say much to me the next two days, but his family was visiting him so i didnt bother him, and then he called me, he told me that he did like me very much and loved spending time with me. he said he was sorry he didnt have more time with me, but he didnt even have any time for himself and everything was just so hectic in his life right now that he didnt think he could make ths work. he said he was sorry and this isnt the way he saw things going for us, he said he didnt want to hurt me and this was really hard forhim too, but his life was just so crazy. and that he always wants us to be friends.i havent talked to him sense, i know he needs some space, but i dont want this to be over, is there anything i can do to fix it?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He wants it to be over. You don’t. 🙁 It’s sad to be rejected, but that’s what you’re facing. Whether his reasons for not wanting to see you are real or lies to let you down easily, the bottom line is the same.

Rather than see this rejection as a bad thing, consider it a gift. I know that sounds weird because nobody likes to feel dumped, but the truth is there are plenty of guys who will play you, string you along, lie to you to get you to spend time with them when they have no interest in you as a person or in a long term relationship. He’s actually respecting himself and you enough to tell you the truth and to NOT waste your time so that you CAN pursue other options — and they ARE out there.

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