[Teddybear_573]

I met this guy through work about a year ago. I am currently married, but the relationship I have with my husband is dead, and can’t be saved. I am falling head over heals with this man. I’ve read alot of information on body language, how to tell if someone is interested in you and so on… the signs are there: eye contact, how he positions his body, he laughs at my jokes, he compliments me when we meet, he remembers details from previous meetings… he met my cousin, and she told me he “sang my praises”… he asks things like “if I needed to get hold of you, where would I call” when I am in town, he is asking questions like “you and your parents must get along, right?”, he is starting to tell me about his family, when I need to call him for work, we stay on the phone and chat about personal things… we laugh when we get together; he’s all I think about and right now; that’s what’s keeping me happy… what do you think? I appreciate any comments and advice.

[kai]

Hi, I’ve told this to several other people who have posted questions in the WELCOME AREA: the Welcome Area [b]IS NOT for questions[/b] and [u]should not[/u] be used to get advice. 😮

it says “DO NOT post your questions” here, when you go to sign up. 😳

Please [b]repost your question in the Q & A Relationship Advice Forum[/b] if you want to get a response from April.

[b]you won’t get a response to your question here — this is the welcome area.[/b] 😀

[jemsbowen]

This is definitely interested post. My first thought is to think that I fill a temporary gap for him. My second idea is that it is not yet ready to admit that he really likes. I hope that you give me more information about this topic.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Let me know how things are going for you? 😉

[Sally]

His actions say he likes you. There’s no denying that. People don’t remember details, linger on calls, ask about your family, or light up around someone they feel nothing for. That part is real. You’re not imagining it.

But here’s the part you need to hear. His actions also say he’s staying safely on the edge. He hasn’t crossed a clear line. He hasn’t said what he wants. He hasn’t made a move that costs him anything. Right now, this lives in a warm, emotional gray area where it feels exciting and safe at the same time.

And I want you to be careful with that, because you’re married and unhappy, and when your heart is starving, even crumbs can feel like a feast.
What’s keeping you happy right now isn’t him. It’s the feeling of being seen again. Wanted again. Alive again.

Before you read more into his signals, ask yourself what you need to do about your marriage first. Because if nothing changes there, this situation will quietly break your heart.
Enjoy the connection, but don’t let hope run ahead of reality

[Nick Roy]

If your marriage is truly over, you should move on.
From your post, it seems that the person is definitely interested because no one remembers every little thing in such detail for no reason, nor does he talk on the phone for hours.
Just make sure that the new person isn’t just a time passer, but that they can give you the spark you’re looking for.

[Fozia]

Hi
This guy is playing a very “safe game.” He knows you’re married, so he’s just throwing out an “emotional hook” to get your full attention, but he doesn’t have to make any effort or commitment.
As long as you’re married, you’re just a “safe fantasy” to this guy. He knows you won’t fall for him because you have a “tag.”
I think this guy is having fun, and you’re getting emotional. Step back a bit and see if he still asks about your parents if you’re not “available.”

[Member]

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