[Anonymous99]

I met a man a few months ago at my grandfather’s church and I really do want to start seeing him seriously. He is quite a bit older than me but nothing that bothers either of us. He’s everything I could ever wish for in a man and more. He has a daughter and I don’t know why I feel so jealous of a small child. She is 4 years old. I feel just terrible for feeling so jealous. He’s always saying he loves her more than anything and being a father is the most amazing feeling in the world, and that’s how it should be! I know that. Children are supposed to come first. I just feel like because he loves her so much he’s going to love me less than he would if it was just him and I. To me he will come first, for him I’d always come second and I just feel jealous. She’s such a sweet girl too, she has him wrapped around her little finger and I don’t know how to fix the way I feel. I care about him so much. I don’t want to end it I want to fix it. I can’t tell him I’m jealous of his little girl. I don’t want to feel jealous of a child!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You know, not everyone is cut out to date a single parent, and there’s no shame in wanting to come first. 🙂 But knowing that about yourself, dating this guy probably isn’t good idea. It’s great that you’re so in touch with your feelings, and I really appreciate that about you. However…. if you’re feeling jealous of a four year old, you’re going to have real problems when she turns 12, 13, 14, 15 and older. You’ve given yourself a gift with these flashing yellow lights that are your jealousy. Find someone without kids to date. You’ll have a much easier time of things. 😉

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