Hello, April..
I am 25 y.o. female. Been dating with this 29 y.o. guy for a year and a half now.
He has a job, responsible, never intentionally do bad things to me or anyone. Our interaction is actually not bad. I always ignore my little dissatisfaction about anything such the lack of sex, a bit different sense of humor, the way he sometimes not treating me as his priority, the way he NEVER initiate anything, and always blaming everything else except himself, etc. I am also a human after all, right? I must’ve been disapointing him too every once in a while. So I guess we’re still even.
But lately there is one thing that really got into my mind. I already know that he’s spoiled and selfish, he got this from his parents. This whole time I think “never mind, he hasn’t do any crime by that anyway, I just have to manage my emotion towards that. And maybe somehow their selfishness could teach me to apreciate my self too, they showed me that it is okay to be selfish sometimes.”
A few days ago we were talking by phone. He was asking what was I up to, I said I was reading the news about a lady who died a few days ago while working. He suddenly laughed hard about that news, he said the way that lady died was hillariously funny, and a few other sentences concluded as “that lady isn’t worthy, she doesn’t need to be apreciated nor respected”.
I was shock, I tell him “She has 3 kids. His husband can not afford their lives. All she did was trying to keep her self and her family alive. To afford food, to pay for school. Don’t you have a heart??!” then I continue “she was growing up in a slump area, never had a chance to get proper education, she did the best that she could! You never even felt hungry all your life, who do you think you are judging her like that?!”
Then he tried to make things better with me by saying everything I said was right, that actually he pity her too, whatever bla bla bla. He always did that whenever I (or anyone) point out something different than his opinion. He never apologized, never admit he was wrong, and the worst is he never even kept his real opinion.
What should I do? I started to think that he’s mentally ill or retarded..
