[Anonymous]

Hello..

First let me say that I believe all women have valid intuitions some more than others. Mine have always been right on however most of the time I choose to ignore them but in the end find out I was right. With that being said, my past has been littered by cheating boyfriends. I always seemed to find the guy that was a cookie cutter of the one before him. Until just over a year ago when I met my current boyfriend who is much different than anyone I have been with. Going back to my past; obviously I have insecurity of being cheated on due to my past and maybe even more so with him as I think maybe “this is too good to be true” sometimes. I know very little about his past in reference to dating other than his first serious girlfriend and then the one just before me whom he spent 5 abusive years on and off with. She was an alcoholic and took advantage of him. I do know that he dated a married woman once and also when his ex and he started dating she was in another relationship (I wonder often if that makes a man more likely someone who will cheat?). I told him about my last (and most damaging relationship) right at the start and said that there are two things I will not tolerate and that is cheating or lying. It wasnt until four months ago that I caught him in a lie. It was something very minor and believe that it was out of embarrasment (although I didnt have understanding to his face). Now, I am constantly looking for things. This includes looking in his phone and on a few occasions his call history is erased (because he cant just erase one number at a time) and knowing that he receives txts from a female friend and he erases them. Which brings me to the next issue the female friend…she is someone that sleeps with married men, has a boyfriend and also sleeps around. She calls him incesently and he will never answer if hes with me. He hides her. Ive asked if they had something going on before we were together to make her that way and he said no but why would he say yes, right? Lately our sex life has dwindled and when addressing the issue its because he is stressed from work. Last year at this time when he had stress from work I didnt feel it in the bedroom. Oh, one more thing…about 6 months after we met I became pregnant. He had no children and didnt think he would ever have any. We have a beautiful baby boy that he is so in love with and I wonder if he is just here for him now and is off doing his own thing?? Please help me…

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

You told him that you would not tolerate lying — and then you did just that. 😳 If you want to change your own behavior, you have to actually do it. Talking the talk is nothing if you don’t walk the walk. Clearly, you have reason to believe he is cheating and you have a history of not trusting your instincts only to find out you’re right.

I don’t think he’s going to be someone you can trust — since already you don’t trust him.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go and if there’s anything else I can help you with.

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