[Anonymous]

*Big Sigh* Okay where do I begin?? I’m gonna try to make this as short as possible! So I’m sure this story is nothing you haven’t heard before. I have feelings for my best friend! Physically, Personality-wise, and emotionally, he is like my dream guy! I feel like I can talk to him about anything and he has told me numerous times that he tells me . We’ve known each other for about 10 months now and from the day we met till the time I’m writing you this we talk somehow whether it’s texting or actually being around each other. We’re actually texting now! 😀

Now that you’ve got a little background, let’s get to the root of my problem! When we talk he says things that sometimes makes me think he might be interested in me too! A Few examples: He’s told me I’m going to make a great wife! He got upset with me when I didn’t text him on Valentine’s day! He told me he loved me. When it was time to meet my mom during the holidays he said he wanted to pretend to be my boyfriend when I introduced them.Told me we are inseperable! “Jokingly” said we should get married. Told me i’m a rare type of woman! Asked me what would I say if he told me he was madly in love with me. He was willing to WALK to my house (about a 30 minute walk) in the cold at 2 in the morning just to bring me his leftovers from Olive Garden, because i said I was hungry! He always cares about my opinion on how he looks. etc. etc. There are so many more examples i could give.

Anyway everyone around me (my mom, my friends, my brothers) seems to think we should be more than friends, and I agree!! I’d like nothing more! HOWEVER he’ll say stuff like all those examples i gave, but then talk about other girls, or say he thinks he’s going to be single for the rest of his life! 🙁 and it makes me feel bad about myself because I’m always thinking…as much time as we spend together and if he sees all these great qualities in me why is he looking for a relationship with all these other girls that lead to no where! why doesn’t he feel the same way about me?!

Help me! Does he like me or is he just being friendly and i’m misinterpreting his friendliness for flirtation because that’s what i want it to be?! My feelings are getting stronger and I get emotional sometimes when he talks about how cute some girl is or how some girl caught his eye! Should I step back from him?!

[AskApril Masini]

It’s not your imagination, but the mixed signals here are one way — he’s playing you. I know that’ s hard to believe because he’s not feeding you smooth lines in a nightclub, and he isn’t driving a sports car, but the reality is, he’s playing your emotions and keeping you around for his own attention. If he can walk to your house at 2 a.m. to bring you leftovers — don’t you deserve to be picked up at 8 a.m. and given dinner on the first go-round? 😯

He’s obviously a bright guy and if he really cared about you, he wouldn’t talk about other women in front of you, knowing (and trust me, he knows) that you have a crush on him.

My advice is to move on and find a guy who wants to actually bring you to Olive Garden during operating hours, and not carry in cold pasta in a doggie bag. 😕 You can do better!

Let me know how it goes. And I hope you’ll follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the advice April!! And as hard as it is for me to accept it (I really wish he liked me!) I’m starting to think you’re right! It’s going to be hard to detach myself from him but I think it’s the best move.

Question: Do you think I should just cut him out of my life all together? Besides all this mixed signal crap he seems to be a good person and and an even better friend and I’d like to keep him in my life, even if we are just platonic friends. Think that’s a bad idea?

[AskApril Masini]

It’s a really bad idea to stay friends with him. Why waste your time? The best thing to do is to just move on and spend your time and energy on men who are really interested in dating you. You’d get a lot out of reading Think & Date Like A Man, a book I wrote for women who want to do well in relationships. It’s got a lot of good advice. Here’s the link: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url] or you can buy it on the websites for Barnes & Noble and Amazon. 😀

See you @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 🙂

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