[Dolphinedoll]

I am really physically attracted to my professor and I wonder if he feels the same or is this all in my head. Im 21 he is in his mid 30s. It all started very innocent then i just started having feeling for him, i think he may like me too but i just want some opinions from you guys.
Here are some of the events that made me think that he may like me.
– he is really nice and picks on me in class like my shirt
– he touched my arm ( while laughing/joking) 3 times
– everytime we have lab he comes to our table ( on my side ) just to see if we need help ( no im getting an A in the class)
– he always starts to give out lab tools to our table first even though he skips a table that is in front of us
– he remebers the little details where im from and keeps bring them up in class convo
– he leans really close to me when he is at our table group kind of invading my personal space bubble ( not in a creepy way)
– he doesnt get mad at me if i say something sarcastic at him
– i was late for a group meeting and i thought that a normal professor wont care whether i showed up or not, but he was worried so a friend texted me saying that the professor was worried why i was late
– i see him staring at me when he is lecturing but i cant keep long eye contact so i look away
– he is very helpful, i asked for a tool and he went out of his way to find it in a different lab
– if i see him outside of class he starts talking to me first and jokes around a lot
– i have seen him staring at me as i was reaching for something but he seemed lost like he was daydreaming
– i had a guy neigbor in my class and he came to my table and was talking with me catching up and my professor said what are you doing here to the guy, you dont belong in this group in a joking way
.. Is this all in my head or is there something
I dont want criticism

[AskApril Masini]

He likes you.

[Sally]

When you’re attracted to someone, especially someone confident and kind, your brain starts connecting dots fast. And professors can feel extra intense because they’re focused, attentive, and in a position of authority.

Most of what you described also fits someone who’s just friendly, engaged, and good at their job. Remembering details, joking, helping out, being relaxed with you in class that’s not rare for professors who actually like teaching and connecting with students.

The touching and teasing is the only part that blurs things a little, but even that can still sit in harmless territory. If he truly crossed a line, you’d feel it more clearly, not just wonder.
Right now, it sounds like a crush mixed with proximity and attention. Try to keep your feet on the ground. Let it stay where it belongs in your head and protect yourself.

[Tara]

You’re romanticizing away: this is not a mutual crush story, it’s a textbook case of projection mixed with power imbalance and wishful thinking. You’re 21, he’s your professor, and your brain is turning basic attention and mild charisma into a fantasy because authority plus proximity plus attraction scrambles judgment. Most of what you listed is either normal professor behavior, light classroom banter, or your hormones filling in blanks that don’t exist.

Remembering details, being friendly, helping students, joking, standing close, noticing when a student is late that’s literally part of his job. And if any of it crossed into intentional flirting, that wouldn’t make it romantic, it would make it unprofessional and stupid on his part. A grown man in his mid-30s risking his career for a student doesn’t mean “he likes you,” it means “he lacks boundaries,” and that should kill attraction instantly.

Here’s the part you don’t want to hear: even if he were attracted to you which you cannot prove it doesn’t matter. Nothing healthy or real can come from this. If he acts, he’s reckless. If you act, you’re setting yourself up to be the disposable one in a situation where he holds all the power. And the reason you’re obsessively cataloging every look, touch, and joke is because you’re emotionally feeding a fantasy instead of grounding yourself in reality. You don’t want criticism, but reality doesn’t care about that.

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