[Anonymous]

my boyfriend doesnt trust me, i havnt done anything wrong. He says its because ive lied to him but they are like little white lies one about his dick size, another about missing bits out in my past which i never did on purpous! now he’s saying we need to chill out because apparently ive been lying more about the way i felt about one of my exes as i said in the past he didnt really mean anything and then when he asked me last night i said something like i did really like him so i never got in the situation where i would cheat on him. (he was asking me if id ever been close to cheating). He was also bothered by the fact that im going out with a group of guys tonight, apparently i didnt really mention that, which actually i did straight out when he asked me who i was going out with!! what do i do??

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If your boyfriend feels secure with you he won’t start behaving jealously. But if he’s insecure, ask yourself where you can make him feel better about the two of you. For instance, if you’re going out with a group of guys, and you know that that might bother him then mention it to him in advance. Is there a reason he can’t go along with you all? If he feels jealous of the group get together then invite him to come along. Unless of course you don’t want him to come and you truly are distancing yourself with lies to give yourself privacy to test the dating waters and see what else is out there.

First and foremost be honest with yourself about what it is you’re doing and feeling. Second, be honest with him about the broad strokes in the relationship. White lies are okay because they’re often part of being polite. (“I love your haircut,” is okay to say when you really don’t.) But make it clear to yourself if there is something for him to truly be jealous about or not.

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