[Lonelymillie]

Hello,
Two fridays ago my fiancé left me after a fight and heavy drinking. Our relationship is very up and down. He met a girl that night, a bartender, and spent the whole weekend w her and the weekend after that and now this weekend.
Sometimes during the week.
We own a home together so we were trying to co exist but that didn’t work out. I’m staying at my parent for now to start to heal. My heart hurts. I wonder if he will start missing me enough to give out relationship another go. What do you think?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think that since you’ve been together for three years, and you’re both in your mid-30s, and he’s now started seeing someone else, you should focus on the breakup and creating a new life for yourself. Whether or not he starts missing you — he’s left you like this after three years of dating and buying a house together. It’s not a very polite, respectful or thoughtful way of moving on — and I know you’re hurt, but really — you can do better than this. 😉 The way a person breaks up with you is very indicative of their character. Next!

[Sofia]

Right now, you feel like he will come back and everything will be fine, but the old pattern will start again. Ask yourself, do you want to abandon the person who is only hurting you and has left you after three years of being together?
And I agree with Ask April that after being together for three years and buying a house together, leaving in such a manner is a sign of this man’s bad character. He doesn’t deserve you. So you should move on.

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