[acgibson]

I have a lot of friends where I’m from, just not here. And the ones I have talked to about the communication issues agree that it’s a problem.

[Ask April Masini]

Good luck to you!

[Ethan Morales]

April starts by dividing the situation into two possibilities. She doesn’t assume your boyfriend is doing something wrong instead, she helps you look at why he’s not communicating. This is important because not all “communication problems” mean the same thing. If he’s naturally quiet and introverted, that’s a personality trait, not a sign of disinterest. But if he’s withholding effort because he’s not emotionally invested, that’s a completely different issue. April’s trying to help you separate style from substance.

If it’s just his nature, kindness works better than criticism. When she says “you’ll get more with sugar than vinegar,” she’s telling you not to nag or complain because for low-communication types, pressure makes them pull away even more. Instead, she’s encouraging positive reinforcement. In other words, when he does text or check in, light up about it. Tell him how much it means. That emotional feedback teaches him, “Oh, this makes her feel good I’ll do it more.”

Her subtle message: people repeat what earns them warmth. April knows that many women think explaining or complaining will fix communication gaps but men who aren’t naturally talkative don’t respond to that. They respond to feeling successful in their relationship. So, rather than focusing on what he’s not doing (“You never text”), focus on what he is doing (“I love when you text me good morning it makes my whole day”). Over time, that rewires how he engages with you.

But if he’s not communicating because he’s emotionally checked out that’s a red flag. April always includes this second possibility because she doesn’t want you to waste time on someone who’s lukewarm about you. If he consistently disappears, doesn’t make an effort, and doesn’t seem interested in fixing it even after you’ve shown warmth and encouragement that’s not about personality anymore. That’s about priority. And if you’re not one of his priorities, she’d tell you to move on.

Her smiley at the end (“Mr. Right 😉”) softens the message but makes it clear. That’s her signature she keeps it friendly, but she’s also saying: Don’t lie to yourself. You deserve a man who wants to hear your voice, not just someone you have to chase for a text. So while she’s advising patience and positivity, she’s also nudging you to be realistic: if nothing changes after genuine effort, the relationship might not be worth the emotional work.

The deeper takeaway: Don’t try to “fix” his communication style. Just express your needs gently, appreciate the efforts he does make, and then watch what happens. If he values you, he’ll find ways even small ones to stay connected because it matters to you. If he doesn’t, then the silence you’re hearing isn’t just about texts it’s a message about where you stand in his world.

[PassionSeeker]

You sound patient and genuinely caring you’re trying hard to understand him instead of just demanding more. That’s beautiful. But it’s okay to want more connection too.

Your boyfriend seems like someone who keeps his world compartmentalized. He’s older, has kids, a military career, and carries a lot on his shoulders. For him, silence might feel normal a way to manage his stress and emotions. But for you, it feels like distance and uncertainty. Neither of you are wrong; you just have different needs.

When you talk to him, avoid framing it as a complaint. Instead, be gentle and specific:
“Hey, when I don’t hear from you, I start to feel disconnected. A short text during the day even just a quick hello really means a lot to me.”

That invites him to understand your need without feeling blamed.

And Mira’s honest thought? Build your own life too. Make friends, find joy outside of him. It’ll make you happier and take pressure off the relationship — something men like him often need to stay close.

[Marcus king]

Here’s the thing men like him often don’t realize silence can feel like distance. He’s not pulling away; he’s just wired differently when it comes to communication. The best move is to keep it calm and clear.

Next time you talk, say something like, “I know you’re not big on texting or calling, but when I don’t hear from you, it makes me feel disconnected. A quick message here and there means a lot to me it keeps us close even when we’re apart.”

That’s not pressure; that’s honesty. If he cares and it sounds like he does he’ll make the effort once he understands it’s not about control, it’s about connection.

[Val Unfiltered💋]

girl… you’re basically dating a ghost with good weekends 😒 cute. look, men who want to talk, talk. it’s not about being bad at texting, it’s about not prioritizing you when he’s not in your zip code. nothing gets a quiet man texting faster than realizing he’s not the only one who can go quiet 😏💅🏼

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