My boyfriend and I have been dating since freshman year of college, so a year and a half now. We began college at the same school but then I transferred back home in Ohio this past semester and he stayed in Kansas. We discussed what we were going to do with our relationship for this semester, and I was under the impression we were still a couple but I recently found out that he considered us not a couple this entire semester. I talked with him recently because I wanted to revisit the topic of what our relationship was going to do after this semester was over. I had spent this semester visiting him on my breaks and he visited me on his breaks, but we won’t have those same opportunities to visit each other next semester due to our busy schedules.
I loved the long distance relationship that we had this past semester, he and I had the freedom to do our own things but we still called, texted, Facetimed, and visited each other. So I proposed that we continue the relationship into the summer and beyond. He thinks that we should seperate because of the distance, not break up per say, just seperate. His theory is that we still love each other and care deeply about each other, but because of the distance we can’t see each other all the time. He believes that we are not ending the relationship that we have, we are losing the titles of boyfriend/girlfriend that we had. We will not be an official couple when we aren’t physically together, but when we are together we are back to being a couple.
I am confused as to what exactly he’s trying to tell me, is he wanting to break up with me and this is the way he does so? Does he want to keep the exclusive relationship going but he doesn’t know how to deal with the distance well? Or does he want to live both lives, the single life when I’m not there, and then the boyfriend/girlfriend life when I am there.
I love him and I could see our relationship continuing for many years, but I don’t know if I would be able to handle him acting like a single man when he’s not with me.
Any advice or suggestions as to broach the topic again with him would be greatly appreciated!!
