[mary1389]

Okay, so I’m really confused and looking for some help.

I met this guy about a month or two ago and we hit it off great. He asked for my number and we hung out and texted a few times…but nothing really came of it. I was a little bummed but moved on.

Two weeks ago he messages me asking how I am and inviting me to go out with him and his friends. I anticipated it was going to be very awkward but it wasn’t at all! He was sweet, attentive, funny, introducing me to all his friends, it was a lot of fun. We went back to his place and talked and exchanged music all night. We kissed and cuddled in bed but he made no move for sex. We hung out for the next few days and it was fantastic. He would do little things that would drive me nuts like kiss the top of my head or the tip of my nose, he even let me stay at his place after he left for work (we never had sex though during our nights together).

We were suppose to hang out one night but he couldn’t make it and suggested we hang out the next day…but since then I’ve heard nothing from him. Its been a couple days and I don’t know what to think.

He gave me no signs that he was in it just for sex and he seemed really interested in seeing me more. Did I make myself too available? Or is he just some smooth player?

[kai]

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[AskApril Masini]

Let me know how things are going for you? 😉

[Sally]

Anyone would be confused after that kind of closeness.
What’s hard is that his actions when you were together were warm and intimate, but now his silence is saying something totally different. Both things can exist, and that’s what makes it frustrating. You didn’t do anything wrong by being available or kind. You just showed up as yourself. That’s not a mistake.
Sometimes people like the closeness, the comfort, the attention, but when it starts to feel real or consistent, they pull back. That doesn’t automatically mean he’s a player, but it does mean he’s not being clear or steady.
I’d try not to overanalyze what you did. Focus on what he’s doing now. If he wants to see you, he’ll reach out. If not, that silence is still an answer, even if it’s a disappointing one.

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