[Anonymous]

Hi! Im going throught somethin ive never been through before so i need so much help to help me get through this. So theres this boy. He is a ladies man. When i met him he had a gf and she was pregnant for 1 week with his baby but it died. He wasnt sad about it he was neutrall.but through their realationship he was messin with me. And i would try to stop talkin to him but it was sohard to and i think im in love with him.. but we got together after 8 months of me knowing him and we dated for 2 months. it was 2 weeks before he moved he asked me to check his facebook for n e messages so i did and i looked and he was talkin to my bestfriend and it asked so when was he moving and wen was he going to tell your girlfriend(me). he replied in june and he wasnt going to tell me he was jus going to diappear then said jk (jus kidding). so i txt him and asked said he was moving in two weeks and i only saw him once in those last two weeks and he promised that he would see me b4 he left. but i couldnt take it n e more so i jus broke up with him because he wasnt callin me or txtin me and i told him i was brakin up with him and explained why and that i knew he was going behind my back with his ex because people would tell me theyd see him at the mall with her and her myspace would say waiated for him to call me musta been on the fone with her all night(me) and all he had to say was who told you. so he moved now and you remember when i said that when i would try to stop talkin to him but it was hard before we started dating well it was because when i did that everthing i listened to on the radio the tv my friends some random guy walkin down the street would say his name they made a song with his last name in it..one night they even played his favorite song over and over because someone kept requesting it on the radio.. but now its even worse!! i cant take it and now hes gone and he went back with his ex who lives here by the way! n i told him i hated him and im trying to forget him but these random people and radio songs n everything are everywhere. i cant stop crying because another person jus told me the same thing that he goes back with his ex i had 50 inbox 50 difernt people telling me that and the 51st person was him just now and i told him that i hate him and i dont wanna think about him n e more wat do i do to make that happen or wat do you think i should do or say or practice or n e thing to get some sleep at night

[Ask April Masini]

I’m really sorry you’re so hurt over this break up. Maybe knowing that he wasn’t the guy for you since he was dishonest and betrayed you, will help! It’s not like you’re missing a truly great guy. You’re missing a cad, instead. 😕 So try and absorb that fact.

What you’re probably missing is the intimacy and the companionship as well as the romance that goes with any relationship — even one with a rotten guy. The good news is that you can get all those things and get them with someone who is actually Mr. Right. So keep your eye on the horizon — not the recent past — and that will also help you get over your heartbreak.

In the meantime, the day to day can be taxing, as you write, so try and keep busy and do healthy things. Try something new like volunteering at a hospital or a homeless shelter — or change the world by getting involved in a political campaign or some sort of organized and social event that works for a greater good. You’ll realize other people have way worse issues than you do in this break up. Stay healthy and eat well, exercise to keep those endorphins coming, and give yourself a makeover and keep up that good grooming that makes you feel put together every day.

If you practice what I preach 😆 you’ll feel a lot better. Also, consider reading Think & Date Like A Man, a book I wrote for women who want to find, get and keep Mr. Right (not Mr. Wrong!). You can download the book at this link: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. I think it will help you a lot and make you feel better, too.

Don’t forget to join me on Facebook at my new group page, AskApril.com on Facebook right here: [url][/url]. 😀

I hope that helps!

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