[Sally]

It’s not about being jealous, it’s about respect. When someone’s in a serious relationship, spending one-on-one time with a person they used to date is going to stir feelings or questions, no matter how innocent it seems.

You’re not wrong for feeling uneasy. The key here is how she handles your concern. If she values the relationship, she’ll care about how it makes you feel and find another way to reconnect that doesn’t cross boundaries. If she brushes it off, that’s something to pay attention to. Respect should go both ways.

[Natalie Noah]

Your feelings are completely valid. it’s normal to feel uncomfortable about her meeting an ex. She showed respect by asking you first, which is good.

What to do: Tell her how you feel calmly not “don’t go,” but “I feel uneasy because of your past with him.” Ask for transparency or invite yourself if it helps you feel safe.

Watch her reaction: If she respects your feelings, all is well. If she dismisses them, that’s the real issue.It’s about honest boundaries, not control.

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