[Anonymous]

I’ve got this girl… We were just friends a while ago but it had one moment where we had sex and a few weeks after that people started telling me that she is saying that we’re dating. and I got fed up and i left the country not alarming anyone, i just left. i left for about 6 months, to start fresh when i came back to my home town. But when i came back she’d still be spreading rumors. So i decided to just try out the relationship and see how it goes. It’s been kind of bad, she cheated on me and my friend caught her and he came back and told me and i made the mistake and lash her. i am terribly sorry for it.. and i made an oath never to lash a woman again. which i’m sticking to. but the thing is, I always see this girl n the mart by me, she’s gorgeous, kind and her smile is heart warming. One day my friends came and told me that she was asking around for me but i had just left. and i got excited and i found her name on facebook and i messaged her, saying i wanted to get to know her cause i’ve been watching her for a while and i heard that she was looking for me and she told me that she’s in a relationship and can’t just get to guys while she’s in one. So i understood, even though i wanted to meet her sooo bad… So about 2 weeks after her sister gets with one of my friend and the hook up and she’s there and she actually single! so we started talking on the phone and everything was amazing. i was afraid to say that i have a girlfriend because i thought she’s run off and i dont want that to happen. But a few months after, we had sex for the first time. and jezz… she’s everything i ever wanted, in looks, personality, sexual intercourse, the way she smiles, and the feeling i get inside. I can be myself around her and nothing goes wrong. When my girlfriend found out she called the girl and started to make confusion. The girl understood me and she’s still in my life and everything is fine. But i know i have to make a choice. I don’t want to hurt the girl but yet still i know that the girlfriend is not going to leave us alone. Added to which the girls parents aren’t okay and they would take a while for her to move around freely with me but she sneaks out and stuff to be with me and just to see me and my girlfriend isnt the type of girl yu’d introduce to people as your girlfriend… pleaseeeee help me!

[Ask April Masini]

It would really help to know your age and the ages of the women you’re telling me about. The girl who has to sneak around to see you because her parents don’t approve of you sounds like a bad bet as a girlfriend since she’s either a teenager and too young for you, or else still committed to her parents in a way that makes her unavailable for a dating relationship.

So while this new girl may be the sweetest girl ever, she may not be a compatible date, and the latter is more important.

[Anonymous]

The girlfriend is 21, the sweet girl is 18, and i’m 24… Its not that she’s commited to her parents or anything like that. it’s that i have had a bad past which her mother knows about. But i can assure you that i’ve changed and she wants her mom and i to meet to make it better. But she says that i have to figure out what i’m going to do with my girlfriend

[Ask April Masini]

The 18 year old girl who’s parents don’t approve of your past is not a compatible girlfriend for you being 24 and still dating someone else. While the 18 year old may want her mother to meet you thinking that will help, I sincerely doubt any mother will want her daughter to date a 24 year old with a checkered past and a current girlfriend. 🙁

My advice is for you to look elsewhere for women who are more compatible with you.

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