[lauren82]

hi

I met this guy online, we chatted for a while and then decided to meet up. we hit it off really well and decided to meet again which again was really good. He is currently in his final year at uni therefore he is really busy handing in assignments and getting ready for his exams. when i got home at the end of the 2nd date he text me saying he defo wants to see me again but he is really busy with everything but he promises me he is not usually as busy as this. Do u think this guy seems geniune?

i know i prob sound pathetic but i just keep expecting things to go wrong as i have dated a few guys bu nothing ever came of them, i have always been far to clingy and read signs wrong! can you please give me some advice as i don like this guy and i do think he likes me as well!

thank you xx

[Anonymous]

you’ve only had two dates, just see what happens. You’re not going to lose anything since really he isn’t anything to you. Just keep your cool, try not to be clingy and it’s really hard i know but you can’t assume the worse he might being telling the truth. You cant make things happen. try to have fun with it 🙂

[Clara]

The good news is that you know what your problems are, and you’re able to articulate them in your post:

1. You’re too clingy.

2. You read signs wrong.

If you really want to change your life and make things better, then I’d advise you to work on YOURSELF and start with these problems. I hope you’ll buy my book, Think & Date Like A Man, that you can download here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. The book will help you A LOT with reading signs [i]correctly [/i]and ways NOT to be clingy. So read the book and let me know if that helps

In the mean time, understand that you are definitely reading the signs wrong in this case since your guy told you he’s going to be really busy getting ready for university exams and you’re wondering if he’s genuine instead of respecting what he told you. What you’re doing is putting your own needs ahead of his, and ultimately, you’re going to be too high maintenance for most guys unless they feel that you trust them.

This practice of not putting your own needs first is going to be a discipline that you have to practice to master, but I think you can do it. 🙂

On the other hand, if this is his way of blowing you off after two dates, then rather than see this as failure, understand that not everyone you date will be right for you and vice verse, and when one of you knows it’s not a match and acts on that incompatibility appropriately, you’ve dodged a bullet. Guys who waste your time by dating you even though they’re not REALLY interested in you keep you from meeting Mr. Right, so if this guy truly isn’t interested, be glad it didn’t drag on for months or years and that you’re free to look elsewhere.

[lauren82]

We are going out again this weekend! 😀

[Clara]

I hope that my advice helps, since you’re going on a third date with this guy! 🙂

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