[danielle1989]

I have been with my current boyfriend for two years now, except for a break where we were broken up for about 2 months and I dated another guy whom I actually fell for. However, I still loved my boyfriend and could not be without him so I broke it off. For the most part, I am so happy I did because I love my boyfriend and see a very serious future with him. However, sometimes, I really miss the boy who I dated in between. It comes and goes, sometimes, I could care less but sometimes I legitimately really miss him and get extremely confused because it still feels like it’s possible I may have a small amount of feelings for him. I don’t really see a future with the old boyfriend, at least not a serious one, and with my current boyfriend, I see my entire future with. I know it’s not worth it to give that up, but sometimes it almost feels wrong to have these feelings. PLEASE HELP

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It’s not wrong to have the feelings you’re having. Love can be complicated, but behavior is not. Just because you have a feeling doesn’t mean you have to act on it. Lots of people have love for old flames — especially first loves — but it doesn’t mean they don’t go on to have long term, successful relationships and marriages with other people. You can have feelings for the ex-boyfriend, but if you recognize that your current boyfriend is Mr. Right, then treat him that way. Have your feelings, but keep them private.

I hope that helps.

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