Since you’ve invested decades in your marriage and family decide if there is anything there to be saved. You mention fighting and arguments, but are they anything you can solve and remedy? It’s very romantic to think that if you up and left your life would be better, but the reality of day to day living isn’t always so romantic.
Since your youngest child is 16, you only have two more years before he or she goes off to college or starts working and takes on an adult life. My advice is to hang in there until your youngest is out of the house, and then decide what you want to do with your marriage. Since you’ve already known this other man for five years, it seems like two more are doable.
If, however, you do decide to divorce your husband, be practical. Since the man you want to be with doesn’t work and between the two of you there is no money, how will you live? Maybe the solution to your unhappiness doesn’t lie with this other man. What do you do with your days? Is it possible that it’s your own personal life that is making you look elsewhere for happiness?
I hope that helps — let me know what you think and do next.
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