I am on a sports team at my university. I was just teammates with this guy on the team, but as we began to talk more and hang out more, we became better friends. I’ve known him about 7-8 months now, and it just gradually became that we became good friends. He would invite me to spend the night sometimes, and I’d sleep in his bed and we’d cuddle, but I didn’t think much of it because that’s how he is. A couple months ago, he admitted that he liked me and was also sexually attracted to me, even though he has a girlfriend he’s been dating a year. I realized two months ago that I liked him, and fell hard for him. After spring break, about 3 weeks ago, I spent the night, and we ended up making out, him starting it. Ever since, things haven’t been the same. He has initiated the conversation once since then, but otherwise, it has always been me. He told me that he needs to keep his distance from me to “destroy his feelings for me”, and that it gets easier to get over me because he hasn’t hung out with me in awhile. It hurts a lot because I still have strong feelings for him, but also, he’s one of my good friends. I’m wondering if he fell for me because he had told me previously how him and his girlfriend started dating was just because she Facebook stalked him, they started fooling around, and he said let’s just date then. Him and I (I would think) would have a better foundation since we started as friends and then all of this happened. He’s still with his girlfriend, but I’m sure he hasn’t told her, and I feel like if he really loved her and it didn’t mean anything between us, he would have told her it would never happen again. He’s initiated everything really, and even teases me about seeing him naked and such. Some of my friends have seen us together and always felt like there was something there, too. Every other time I’ve liked a guy this past year, he’s always said it won’t work out, and I had asked him if he was jealous, and he said he was never jealous, just protective. But I’m wondering if he’d be angry or jealous if I ever dated someone. He also really overreacted one night because I spent the night at a mutual friend of our’s house who I told him that I had a crush on. My view was that he still has feelings for me if he’s still keeping his distance and such, and that when hopefully this blows over (not sure when though), just continue to be his good friend and maybe (hopefully) he’ll realize that he likes me more? Any advice?
